Jealousy In A Relationship – Is It Good Or Bad?

There are many cool things about being in a relationship. Some of these things are love, commitment, understanding, closeness, affection, passion – all of which are positive, good emotions that make us better as a whole. Being emotionally stable is one of the main virtues you get from a stable relationship. You can deal with various things in life with more

ease, if you have someone by your side all the time. But, as we all know, building such a bond is not a walk in the park, and we all soon realize that it’s not all going to be sunshine and lollipops.

There is one emotion that is, in most cases, the basis of each and every problem that a couple comes across and that is – jealousy.

Why does it occur?

First of all, there are two (let’s call them) types of jealousy. The first one is justified – when someone has a history of making wrong decisions – and the second one is unjustified – when someone is, in plain words, paranoid. In other words, if a person is jealous because his or her partner was not faithful in the past and is acting weird now, this kind of jealousy is only natural. On the other hand, if someone is paranoid… well, there is no need to go into detail.

How to solve it?

In both cases, the reason for all that’s happening is lack of communication, which is, as most experts say, the most important thing in a caring and loving relationship. If you talk about your problems, worries, and if you sort them out with your partner, not only will you be working on solving your problems, but you will also establish an even greater bond between you two. The hardest part is to overcome the beginning of the talk, when you are both hysterical and throwing words at each other. Try to be calm, try to listen and try to understand the problem from your partner’s point of view. If you both do that, the solutionwill undoubtedly present itself.

Are there any other reasons?

Another thing that sparks up jealousy in a person is lack of intimacy. This is a nightmare that haunts couples that have been in a relationship for a long time. But, of course, this kind of thing also has its solutions. One of the best things to do is, believe it or not, cosplay. Dressing up as someone you are not and fulfilling some childhood fantasies might just do the trick. It is important to find a way to spice things up in the bedroom and to make it all interesting again since having regular intercourse is healthy both for your relationship and for your body.

Is there anything else?

Of course, there are cases when it is time to say goodbye and end the relationship. Sometimes it is better to break it up and go your separate ways than to try to work on something that cannot be worked on. Of course, it is important to try and fight for the relationship, but if you both realize that, in the end, it’s not worth it, then it is probably best to follow your instinct and do what your gut tells you.

So, is jealousy good or bad?

From everything stated above, you can deduce that jealousy is certainly a bad thing. The only good thing about it is that, when you start to feel jealous, you realize that you have to start working on your relationship as soon as possible. It works as a kind of wake up call. It is important to overcome it and to work on building trust. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship between any two people, not just couples. Without trust, you are just two people annoying each other.

Anyway, to wrap up, jealousy has been a popular human emotion for centuries. Men are jealous, women are jealous, and it is all normal. However, the fact that it is common doesn’t make it necessary. As you can see, you can do all sorts of thing to avoid jealousy. It is up to you to find a way.

By: Ghana/