Why Should I Save Sex for Marriage?

There are so many questions that come to mind concerning having sex before marriage, with a few of them being:

“So why should I save sex for marriage?”

“Are there scriptures from the Bible, that give reasons why we should NOT have sex before marriage?”

We’re so in love, why should we wait?

“What do I do if it’s too late? What if I’ve already forfeited my sexual purity?”

“We’re getting married anyway, so why should we wait to make love to each other?”

Here’s one of the answers to these questions:

“The Bible tells us that love is patient. It is entirely normal to want sex before marriage. But it is entirely loving to wait until marriage. True love can postpone gratification and instead will concentrate on loving the complete person. The person who demands sexual favors as an evidence of love expresses a selfish, demanding love. The person who yields against her or his own wishes shows a childish neurotic weakness. Incessant demanding and reluctant yielding are evidence of immature love, a love, which ignores the total person. (Josh McDowell, from the book, “The Secret of Loving”)

Is that really the type of “love” that you believe it is wise to base your relationship upon —”immature love?” Please prayerfully consider this as you think about why you should save sex for marriage.

Also, for additional points to consider that you may find helpful, we’ve posted a web link below so you can read a Christiananswers.net article, which addresses the above questions (and more). Please prayerfully read the thoughts given concerning the following question:


Pertaining to the question of whether or not there are scriptures in the Bible on this issue, Boundless.org writer, John Thomas gives the following additional insights as to why singles should save sex for marriage:

“I often point to [the Bible, particularly the book of the Song of Songs] when people, usually young singles, ask me about relationships and pre-marital sex. They want to know, where, exactly, does the Bible talk about pre- or extra-marital sex, when neither partner is married. They know about the adultery prohibitions, and they agree —you shouldn’t have sex with someone who is someone else’s spouse. But where does it talk about not having sex if there is no spouse involved? You have two consenting adults, and neither has made any vow to any other person, so it’s not technically adultery. What’s wrong with that? Does the Bible speak to those situations?”

To read John’s answers to these, and additional questions you may have, please read and consider:


Also, you may be interested in reading the following question (and then the answer given), which was presented to author and relationship expert, Chuck Snyder:

“A friend of mine, age 19, recently told me that he and his fiancé have made the decision to “make love” before they are married. They have been in love for several years and have prayed about their decision a lot. He told me that they feel that if they are engaged and will be married that it is OK for them to have sex before they are married. I don’t think that it is right, but I kind of wanted to have the opinion of someone who probably knows the Bible better than I do —I’m learning more every day. Please let me know what you think about this. Thank you very much and God bless.”

For Chuck’s answer, please click onto the web site Crosswalk.com article to read:

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Yeah, you’ve heard it before —save sex for marriage.”

Here’s yet another good reason why you should save sex for marriage, that perhaps will give you the insight you need:



source: marriagemissions